Tuesday, December 22, 2009

I also don't know why I don't call my husband 'Abang'

Why Malay husbands are called Abang is an interesting article. I mean sure I realised a lot of people call their Husbands 'Abang' but I never thought it can be elaborate into an article. I guess it's just something ingrained in us, the Abang thing I mean. The first person I ever heard who call her Husband 'Abang' is of course my mother. Most of my aunties call their husbands 'abang' too, and hey come to think of it I do not remember any of them calling their Husband anything else.

But then of course I grew up and met Husband, but this mouth of mine is so stubborn I cannot even mutter the word 'Abang'. Kesian my Husband, because I think a few times he did ask me why I did not call him 'Abang' which I myself cannot even answer. Oh if you're wondering I call my Husband 'awak' which is kinda funny now, because Husayn somehow sometimes also call his abah 'awak'. Husayn even shouted this a few months ago - "awak..cepatlah turun makan!"

My auntie who is also Husayn's babysitter once said that calling your Husband 'Abang' will make the relationship more mesra like dat, but I don't know lah, I just could not say it because to say it, it usually will follow with this geli tingling feeling and automatically I will switch back to 'awak'. I don't know, do you think it will make any difference what you call your Husband? I thought as long as you don't call him nasty names like "oi mangkuk!" and as long as your Husband don't mind it's ok whatever you call him.

But don't know lah some people may think differentlykan.


21 superstars:

pizlimw said...

Untuk buat wife mcm hormat sikit.. Sebab biasanya abang dihormati oleh adik.. Adik kena hormat abang..

Logik tak aku cakap mcm ni Intan? Hehe.. Orang² zaman sekarang takde sangat panggil husband dia abang.. And biasa yang aku dengar "geli".. Whatever..

supermummy said...

pizli, ahaha part geli tu betul utk aku..sbb aku mcm tak bole nak sebut..kehkeh..tapi logik apa kau cakap tu dan mmg tu pon sbbnyakan..eh tapi aku rasa ramai je orang skarag panggil laki dia abang

KambingBujang said...

huhu. me call en suami nama jer. mujahid or yayang. to call him abang cam pelik jer.. lagipun en suami ckp kalu panggil abg, dier nmpk cam tua la..sbb we are same age..

okinokiyo said...

ehh i panggil my husband abg..scara automatik sbb mmg dia tuaaa dr i pun tpi yg kalau sebaya tu abg2 tu persoalkan lah..

i nak try la tukar, honey..eh i panggil gak kdg2 honey haha ok i dah merapu..

Anasfadilah said...

saya pun memula kawen,nak sebut abang pd husband pun kekok sangat

macam geli+aneh+pelik

tapi dah lama-lama,alah bisa,tegal biasa :)

p/s::kadang2 panggil dia si comel,which buat dia marah...hahaha

Mrs.R @ Emi said...

memula kawen hasben ckp suh panggil dia abg...mcm sgt2 pelik..n slalu tersasul..lama2 bak kata dila..alah bisa tegal biasa :)

Foxy Farah said...

hmm i can never call my husband abang tho he s a lot older than me.ntah rasa mcm pelik and tak kena.hehe

Sue Anna Joe said...

I takleh call him abang. Pernah try sekali dua, tapi macam fail je. And yes, sedikit geli for me.

My mom nak suh panggil abang. I'm like err, even my hasbeng pon tak berapa nak berkenan.

So it's either sayang, awak or bi short for baby.

Sometimes though, kalau balik kampung hasbeng, in front of people I'll call abang, tapi itupun macam bunyi tak bunyik, more like mumbling. So paling senang pergi dekat-dekat baru panggil. Heeheheehee.

mariaariffbaby said...

hehehe..
kita lak depends on situation..

if mood agresif (like nak marah anak ker..so on)..i will use ABANG

if mood ala2 manja..i will use B

but if mood majuk..taknak layan..guna awak jek..

hahahahahahahahah

jahat kan
=P

precious innocent said...

x ingat mana i baca, we should never address our husband as abang sbb 'abang' is for older sibling.. instead we wifey should call d husband as sayang, or honey or ape2 la... more kaseh sayang.. hehe..

i myself call my husband sayang.. depan org pun mcm tu.. tp hubby i address i dgn nama i.. spoil tul..

bila i tanya dia, ngape x panggil i syg ke ape ke, dia ckp dia suka dgn nama i.. nyampah.. then bila i tanya dia, x malu ke i panggil dia 'syg' in public? dia sengih & dia ckp dia lg bangga!! sabo je la...

-mama emma®-

AyuArjuna BiGoshh said...

masa tengah berchenta en.zul(haha), masa dah kahwin panggil Bie(hubby..B-ang) dah ada anak panggil dedet..(terpengaruh dgn panggilan anak)

Lina said...

i prefer to call hubby AYANG or SAYANG than ABANG.. also mesra maa.. dulu pon i pggil AWAK, then slowly change to AYANG.. heheh.. mmg ader rase geli2 sket, lama2 dah biasa.. =)

Liza said...

i read that article too and find it very funny, i do call my better half abang simply because that's what i've been calling him since the day we met as he was much older than me, doesn't matter actually what you call your hubby as long as you love each other and have respect for one another

dwimaya said...

interesting topic..hehe..

me too, i feel a bit geli-ish to call husb as abg..

so, it's either awak or yang..

kdg2 mcm maria ckp tu, depends on mood.. :)

Love Our OMEGA!! said...

entah kenapa kita pasti punya panggilan unik untuk kekasih kita :D

Shariz said...

we are in the same boat ;P
I don't call my husband 'abang', just his name. but i agree with liza. it doesn't matter what we call our hubby, as long as we love and respect each other...that's what matters most :)

Farah said...

hehe i bangga panggil husband i abang in public..eventho kitorg sebaya..dulu mase belom kawin panggil sayang tp bila dah kawin panggil abang sebab rasa lebih respect.

Playette said...

Setuju. Cannot call the husband abang also because I too will have the geli tingling feeling..heh

HaLiMaTuN SaAdIaH said...

hehhee..kita pon tak bole panggil abang..sebab geli..dan hubby pon tak suka dipanggil abang..siap gelak2 lagi kalo kite try nak panggil abang..so instead of abang adalah sayang and he calls me ayang..hehhee..even in front of family both parties..hehehe

betullah dgn those yg cakap,panggilan tak penting as long as si dia dan kita selesa dan saling menyayangi..tapi kalo nak bertukar angin jadi romantik ke..bole lah try tukar2..hahaha..

AdD said...

Hehhe... nice topic...
Dulu masa zaman2 bercinta, puas le hubby suh panggil abang. Tp memang xleh. xtau le napa. sampai hubby ada kata, "ala nnt, dah kahwin awak mesti panggil sy abang punya.." confident habis dia kata cam tu. Sampai dah nak beranak 2 dah skang ni pun memang tak leh panggil dia abang. geli salah satu faktor. Sy panggil dia "awak" and sometime "sayang". sayang tu xgeli plak kan? entahlah pelek dgn diri sendiri...

mariaariffbaby said...

dear
HAPPY NEW YEAR 2010!
hoping 2010 is healthy and prosperous.

 
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