Sunday, January 18, 2009

The problem is not me. It's my Husband. And I honestly don't need any help at all.

I have a terrible weekend, no thanks to my Husband. And I am not on speaking terms with him at the moment, well seriously. First, he PROMISED to bring me and Husayn to baby Sofia's birthday party on Saturday. And guess what, he was having his moody days and he just left me and Husayn then went out to god knows where. You just can't go out and disappear when you have promised and not especially when I promised that I will be attending that birthday party. And for this I would like to apologise to Siti for breaking my promise, and this is the third time I have missed attending birthday party by fellow bloggers. Honestly I understand if people stop inviting me after this.

Men are really a puzzle to me. But I guess sometimes I just felt through understand them, well especially this Husband of mine. Marriage is bed of roses? Oh I don't think so. At least not in my case. The only thing that will light me up is the sight of Husayn and I am really thankful for that. I guess with Husayn it makes it much more bearable. My husband can be mad at me as long as he wish, but I guess when you have a son by your side, it does not seem bad at all. Yes, sometimes I am that detached. I don't know why I am writing what am I writing now, I guess this is an avenue for me since I have a hard time talking about it.

The other thing that I am really thankful is I am living in my parents' house so with my siblings and Husayn around everything seemed so meriah and it help to ease the frustration. I am practicing the 90/10 principles and reading an Islamic motivational book entitled Don't be Sad while singing The Killer's Mr Brightside and Bush's Swallowed on top of my lungs. So I guess I just felt thankful and no hard feeling at all. I honestly don't want to understand men, I just want to wallow and wander with my own thoughts.

SO if you are frustrated and feeling mellow like me, don't be. If you have a best friend or in my case a blog, pour your heart out to your content and then sing on top of your lungs and when you pray on your sejadah and sujud, don't forget to be thankful to Allah, since there are a lot of people who are suffering more than we are.

Wow, I'm feeling better already! Just like one of my favourite song back in the 90s, Oasis's Roll With It:

You gotta roll with it
You gotta take your time
You gotta say what you say
Don't let anybody get in your way
'Cause it's all too much for me to take

Don't ever stand aside
Don't ever be denied
You wanna be who you'd be
If you're coming with me

I think I've got a feeling I've lost inside
I think I'm gonna take me away and hide
I'm thinking of things that I just can't abide

I know the roads down which your life will drive
I find the key that lets you slip inside
Kiss the girl, she's not behind the door
But you know I think I recognize your face
But I've never seen you before

You gotta roll with it
You gotta take your time
You gotta say what you say
Don't let anybody get in your way
'Cause it's all too much for me to take

15 superstars:

Pink Mama said...

dear sis, bawaklah banyak-banyak bersabar. men kan are from mars...aliens...hehe

Mommy Lily said...

suami2 ni mmg kdgkala mencabar kesabaran kan.. tp masih kena sabar. dugaan rumahtangga tu mummy

oliole said...

setuju dengan pink mama...men from mars...woman pula from venus...jangan perang dingin lama-lama tau...

precious innocent said...

sian kat u.. kalau x leh jumpa u..

pelik kalau dgr motivators,"cuba lah fahami suami anda... bila dia balik dr keje, kita jgn la kacau2 dia.. bla bla bla"... habis, dia sorg je ke dlm dunia nie yg keje???

i xleh pour everything dlm blog as he's reading mind...

so pendam je la....

-mama emma-

ZH - Ena said...

sabar tau..bila dh berumahtangga niec mmg mcm2 citer n karenah yg kita hadapi..tapi jgm merajuk lama2 nnti jd lebih parah..

sajer tanyaer..taknak pindah umah ker?? mgkin nie jln penyelesaian utk aman damai..lelaki kdg2 ego taknak bincangkan apa yg terpendam dlm hati diorg..jd dgn buat perangai la dia tunjukkan protes dia..

entah la nie pdpt ena ajer..jgn terasa hati plak..

miMiE aZim@Sk ^V^ said...

ellooww...
pity u.....
sabar je la ekkk....
apa nak buat.. laki nie mmg tak berapa nak paham... huhuh

emma.. : apasal.. kau ada problem kerr?? u know u hav friend like me kan.. kiter dah kenal since skolah kan.... so kenapa ...???? any story wanna share????

Zuhaini said...

sabar ya.. saya punya suami lagi la..

saya kata kat dia, Jom kita gi birthday Party Baby Sofia..?

dia kata, malas lah, nak duduk rumah..

hmm.. sabar je lah... :(

yayan said...

Mummy, kengkadang... ops selalu sya pun alami masalah ni... sya takde sape nak cerita.. sya pernah tulis dalam blog sya tapi... Mr. Hubby selalu baca My blog.. Jadi lagi teruk... So, nampaknya kene pendam jer? Sabar? sampai bile agaknya KITE boleh sabar?

:iBuAfiQah: said...

sabar la supermummy...
btul tuh...
men are from mars
women are from venus...
supermummy leh gak luah kat blog...
tp ai xleh...
sbb hubby pun baca blog ai nie..
so...TELAN ajer la...

precious innocent said...

supermummy, pinjam ur column aaa

mimi (geli ketiak aku panggil ko mimi :P), biarlah rahsiaaaaaaaaaa

wakakaka

-mama emma

supermummy said...

terima kasih di atas komen-komen anda semua! saya rasa saya adalah orang yang sangat positif kerana sekarang kat ofis saya boleh bergelak ketawa macam tak ada apa..kehkeh..ataupun saya hanya memaksa kot..kehkeh..takpelah. saya rasa mungkin saya patut cari buku men are from mars women are from venus tu..tapi adakah selepas membaca saya akan lebih gembira? hahah..takpe..takpe..kena kuatkan semangat!

AyuArjuna BiGoshh said...

be strong...you're supermummy...

Arin said...

penah ade dlm situasi nih..apayg leh di buat..like what u said..pour everything dlm blog..in my case, he reads my blog.. :)

SOHO Mama said...

Betul tu supermummy, terpaksa bersabar je le..lepas2 tu ok balik kan, pastu mesti ada balik merajuk2, gaduh2..it's a vicious cycle! I dah 9 tahun kahwin..it was especially hard in the beginning because I tak sampai setahun kenal suami, dah kawin. But sekarang ni alhamdulillah sebab dh lali & tak layan sgt perasaan :)
I agree, marriage is NOT a bed of roses! Kalau pegi wedding (especially kalau pengantin2 muda mcm early 20s), I noty betul kdg2 terfikir "they're still young and don't know what lies ahead"..but life's like that, right?

Zanna_MamaBatrice said...

being a WIFE
selalu kena berkorban jiwa dan raga
bila ler lelaki nak paham kita kan

 
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