Thursday, November 27, 2008

Bell Ngasri is certainly one of Malaysia's Most Idiot

I always came to work every morning feeling mad at Husband. There's always something that make me feel like screaming in frustration, usually it's because he is so very very hard to bangun from his beauty sleep that I feel like shouting to his ear using loud hailer or siram him with air (but then if I siram him, I will end up cleaning it, so I try very hard to refrain from doing it). And we always end up going to work not talking to each other, only talking when he picked me up from work, when everything is miraculously forgotten. Maybe that's why I don't listen about marriage made from heaven whatever yadda yadda crap this media have been feeding us. Yes, sometimes I am just made of steel. Haha. For me at least, marriage really need a lot of hard work, patience, and sometimes you need to do your homework. By the way did you read about the divorce story of Bell (Ngasrizal) Ngasri. I somehow think this guy is kind of delusional, maybe he thought he was acting in drama of something. Well he actually sent SMS that sound like this to his now ex-wife:

"Aku ceraikan kau. Tq. Selamat Berjaya!"

If I don't know better, I would have laugh at the irony of it, especially the usage of selamat berjaya. Whoever use the phrase "Selamat Berjaya" to jatuhkan talak? That's a creative one, but anyway this Bell guy really deserve the Malaysia's Most Idiot Award. He also actually fell asleep during his divorce proceeding! And to think that he has a 7 month old son. Poor baby, I guess the current trend in celebrity world is to have an affair with other woman when your wife is pregnant/ just give birth. My advice: Don't marry any celebrity, especially actors. Hehe.

Oh yes, back to my nearly every morning angst, I found this 90/10 principle. Read this. Maybe it could change yourself. Well, it changes me not to be so mad anymore ( or to be mad for one minute and then I just let everything go and not really thinking about it).

Discover the 90/10 Principle by Stephen Covey.
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).

What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.

The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.

You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is "D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off. Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life!!! Enjoy...

14 superstars:

Ms.Lilies said...

This entry really2 gud one la sis...i never realized 'bout this.....and yes about that Bell..sangat bangang ok pi tido dalam court..

Umi_Aliesha said...

lawak jer sms bell...sian kat ex wife..

Nurmala said...

saya pon ada baca ttg sms bell pada wife dia tu..huh!!! macam budak²

madam CT said...

agree wif u..bell is d most idiotic man..i hate man dat always take thing for him..

ada bini jagalah kan..yg dok mengatal ngn betina lain apa ke hey nye..

stupid ! ! !

supermummy said...

Ms Lilies
tu la pasal..kalau dah tak kisah sgt pon baik tak payah pegi court terus..isk mcm adegan cerita lucu pulak

tu la..malang betol dpt laki mcm ni..isk..lawak tak bertempat!

itula..pelik pulak dia ni

madam ct
itu la..dahla dah ada anak..pon nak perangai mcm budak tak cukup umur je..

Laney said...

bell has gone.. ding-dong-bell that's why!! hey, it suits his name.. go figure! =p

idajer said...

stuju!dia mmg budusss.hehe

Norhayati Alai Othaman said...

basala.. dorang tak paham konsep perkahwinan, yati,

ladyell said...

mmg layak menerima 'malaysia's most idiot award'.eiii..gile betul dgn bende kawen cerai nih.buat main2 je..kesian kt bb...

azura -nazs- said...

i totally agree..he deserved the award :P

nicely-written entry though :)

siti fatimah said...

pelik lahh perkara cam nihh pon leh wat lawak & main2 lak!!! cam budak2 i think he really deserved the award kesian his wife...

Zanna_MamaBatrice said...

mmg bodoh
kalu jumpa dpn mata lelaki camtu
mau i hempuk kepala dia

precious innocent said...

nyampah kat jantan2 yg x cukup sekolah nie...

-mama emma-

Zanna_MamaBatrice said...

mmg bodoh pun Bell tu
xde perasaan agaknyer

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